I believe family relationships are very important to a healthy life. A few weeks ago my husband and I traveled over three hundred miles one way to see our son, Matt in a play. He never really showed an interest in acting in his childhood but has recently become involved in a community theater thanks to his wife Heather. I had traveled to see him play young Scrooge in a Christmas Carol last year since I was close by taking care of my sister after surgery. I really enjoyed that experience. But this time he had a leading role playing Einstein in Picasso at the Lapin Agile, a Steve Martin play.
My daughter and her family also made the trip. We were all very impressed with his acting abilities and the whole cast did an awesome job. Matt even got a great review on his performance. They also added their own twists to the play making it into a bit of a musical. Then they did a version of karaoke at the end. It was great. I love live theater and seeing one of my children acting was a plus. Matt even did good with his singing.
And if that wasn’t enough live entertainment my daughter Jacquie took me to see “Beautiful” a musical about the life of Carol King. It was amazing. I got to see the Bass Performance Hall in Fort Worth, what a beautiful place. I got my exercise in climbing many flights of marble stairs that day. We could have taken the elevator but it was much more interesting to walk the stairs. I never realized that Carol King wrote so many songs. Then we got to have mother daughter time and ended up walking around downtown Fort Worth for a while. It was a great time.
And if that wasn’t enough family time Saturday I got to watch my grandson Jack play soccer, and score a couple of goals. I also got to sit near “Iron Man” Rex. Superheroes love soccer games. When that was over we walked around the fire department event that was going on adjacent to the soccer fields. We learned about fire trucks, the jaws of life, and how to break a car window to rescue someone. We also got free food from In and Out burger. Jack and Rex got their pictures taken with the Chick-fil-a cow, dressed up as a fire fighter. The boys got to sit in a swat truck and see bomb squad robots. It was lots of fun.
I don’t think that we can ever have too much family time. I am so appreciative of all the time that I have with my family. Really we never know how much time God will let us have on this earth, so it is important to take advantage of all the time he gives us.
Enjoy your week and I will be back next week with more.
July is my favorite month of the year. It is the month full of family birthdays including mine. First thing on my birthday morning I read a birthday message that Bob left on my mirror in the bathroom. I was also blessed with a wonderful surprise visit at work from my daughter and two grandsons. They came bearing balloons, a card, a cookie cake, a large cupcake, flowers and a violet plant. Wow so much fun. The boys enjoyed demonstrating a few little dances to anyone who would watch.
All my children remembered my birthday. My son Matt sent a great card from his family and my son Chris and his family called and sang me a birthday song. Between in person birthday wishes from family and co-workers, cards, facebook wishes and phone calls it was a great day to know people care. I feel especially blessed to have a loving husband, family and such a thoughtful daughter and grandsons who live close by. The older I get the more challenging birthdays become, but with family and friends that love me, they are easier to bear.
Life is all about connections and building relationships. Those relationships help us celebrate the good times and get through the rough times in our lives. There is one relationship I could not live without, that is my relationship with God. It keeps me steady in the good times and the bad. Without God I would not have the courage to go on in this life. He is my rock and my salvation.
Psalm 62:6 (NASB)
He only is my rock and my salvation,
My stronghold; I shall not be shaken.
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NASB)
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
And do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He will make your paths straight.
You cannot trust someone you do not know. So trusting God requires having a relationship with Him. If you don’t have a relationship with Him I suggest that you get a Bible and start the journey in the book of John which is in the New Testament. Enjoy your week and I will be back next week with more.
Sorry I did not post last week. Two of my grandsons were over on Saturday for a while and then on Sunday afternoon just as I was sitting down to write this blog Chris, my middle son showed up for a surprise visit. It was wonderful to have him show up out of the blue and a bit surprising because he lives at least a ten hour drive away from us. He was on his way somewhere else and dropped off to see us on the way.
Bob and I had great visits with family last weekend. It is wonderful to have family come by. This weekend my two youngest grandsons got to spend the night on Friday. That was fun. Life gets so hectic you have to just take time to enjoy family when the opportunity arises. I am trying to learn how to relax and take every opportunity that comes my way with family. Life is too short to miss golden opportunities that only come once.
I am growing in my understanding of how important it is to cultivate relationships with God, family and friends in order to have a well rounded life and mindset. Just like in gardening you need to cultivate the ground and add the nutrients and water needed to help the plants grow, we must also take time to cultivate our relationships by adding time, compliments, fun and other stuff to build them strong. Remember life is all about how we relate to each other. Join me this week in fine tuning relationships in a positive manner.
On this father’s day I would like to recognize a special man who I have watched over the years grow into an awesome dad, my husband Bob. The caring in his heart for his children and grandchildren helps me to understand how blessed I am to have spent so many years married to him. Happy Father’s Day Mr. Bob, I love you.
Enjoy your week and I will be back next week with more.
I did not publish a blog last week because I was in the midst of a sad occasion and many miles from my computer. We put my mother in law to rest on Monday. She is now peacefully in her eternal reward.
Her name is Ruth, which means “friend, companion”. She really lived up to that name. When I think about her my main memories are about the kindness that she showed toward me from the first day that I met her. As a child and young adult I struggled with one on one conversation with those older than me, but she made conversing easy.
Ruth was friendly, loving, kind, interested in the lives of others and would do what she could to help those in need. One of my favorite things about her was that she was down to earth without frills, which made her all the more loveable and easy to talk to. She was hard working and always had some project going, usually quilts. She never let anyone who came to her home leave hungry, and she was a great cook. She was strong in character and resolve. I never had to worry about my children misbehaving at her house because she was quick to correct their bad behavior and when she did they remembered and were better the next time.
The rod and reproof give wisdom, But a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.
She helped me tremendously during the brief sickness and death of both of my parents within two years of each other. When she became my children’s only living grandparent she took on that role with honor and loved them even more. As my children grew older they got closer to her and never missed the opportunity to visit her even if it was just for a few minutes. She loved those visits. Later as parents themselves, they would bring the great grandchildren to her so they could experience the wonder that was “Grandma Palmer”.
I hope that I can be as kind and accepting and loving as she was as I attempt to be Grandma to my six grandchildren. It was a rare occasion to see her without that beaming smile on her face.
If I could say one last thing to her I would say “Ruth you will be missed here on earth by many and we look forward to reuniting with you someday in heaven.”
God gave me a wonderful mother-in-law and sometimes it takes the passing of a wonderful person like her to remind us that we should truly appreciate our parents, grandparents and other relatives while they are still with us so we don’t regret what we did not think to say while they were alive.
Enjoy your week and I will be back next week with more.
Why can’t time stand still? As I look up from my seat I see pictures of my children when they were little. I remember that time of life. I was young and energetic. I was able to keep up with three little kids and managed to keep them from harm. We played together and built forts in the snow, enjoyed each other’s company and grew up together. I know that I was the adult in that little group of me and my kids but I was young and still had some growing up to do.
It is funny looking back I enjoyed the good and bad times with the kids. We always had some sort of adventure going at our house. We did not go to many public places but we spent quality time together. I enjoyed getting to know who my children were and trying to look forward in their lives to whom they might become. Funny how some parents worry about their children’s grades, I did not. I told them to do their best in learning but I was most concerned about their conduct grades. I figured they would get the academics but wondered if they would understand how to behave around other people.
I think God is like that with us. I think He enjoys spending time with us to get to know us. He is not so worried about us knowing every bit of the bible to please Him. He is more concerned about our actions that come out of what is in our heart. If we allow ourselves to live out of the love that God has put in our hearts then we can know beyond the shadow of a doubt that God is pleased with us. We don’t have to worry that we cannot memorize every scripture or quote it correctly. Academics are not as important as living with a heart after God.
So my challenge for this week is to live life from the heart. I am going to try to express the love of God that is living inside of me to those around me without condemning them for what they do not know. Will you join me in this quest? Enjoy your week and I will be back next week with more.
God is faithful in good times and in bad times, in sickness and in health and the good news is that we do not depart from Him when we die. As I began writing this I realized that it is just like the marriage vows that I took 36 years ago. We said that we would love, honor and cherish each other in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad times, for better or for worse until death do we part. (I might not have gotten the order right but you get the picture.) The time that we have been married has flown by and we are more in love today than when we married.
We raised three children who, like all children, challenged us at times. But more often than not they gave us joy and are still bringing happiness into our lives through what they do and through our grandchildren. Last night I was reminded of those days when we took care of two of the grandchildren. One had a fever and the other one is teething. I remembered those very short nights but the satisfaction that I was able to comfort a baby in need made it worthwhile. I was also reminded once again that I am no longer in my twenties and probably would struggle a bit with night after night of that. Thank God the fever broke and there was only one incident of throwing up.
God equips us with what we need when we need it. Last night God allowed me to be the comfort for a sick toddler and a teething baby. I thank God for those moments because they allow me to build a better relationship with family and to let the love of God shine through. I am blessed and a little tired but feeling wonderful about life.
My daughter believes that she has to apologize for the children being sick, but I tell her it is part of life and I wouldn’t want it any other way. Children are children and I expect they will always present challenges but I love them and God loves them and that is all there is to it. I am blessed to have children that have such caring hearts and loving souls.
Remember to enjoy your family while they are near and know that God will give you the strength to deal with anything that comes your way. God is faithful in good times and in bad times, in sickness and in health. Enjoy your week and I will be back next week with more.