Nursing my sprained ankle showed me that not all support is the best support. I started out with a regular ace bandage wrapped around my ankle which worked ok but took a while to put on and take off. Then my daughter gave me an ankle brace that has Velcro and was very supportive. I used it until we finally found my husband’s air cast that the orthopedic surgeon gave him when he badly sprained his ankle years ago. After 2 days of use I think that some of my pain was from the excess sideways movement of my foot that was not stopped by the other brace.
We all support each other in life. When we have children we support them financially, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Children need our support. True support will help a child to grow strong and make right decisions in the future.
Support does not mean:
- Financially supporting a child does not mean giving them every little thing that they want.
- Emotionally supporting a child does not mean giving into every temper tantrum.
- Physically supporting a child does not mean doing all their physical responsibilities for them such as cleaning their room and never giving chores.
- Spiritually supporting your child does not mean dropping them off at church for someone else to teach and train them, although that can be part of an overall training it should not be the whole thing.
True productive support is:
- Financially providing a food, shelter and clothing is a minimal requirement. If you can afford a few extras great but there is no condemnation if you can’t.
- Emotionally supporting a child means showing them love and compassion. It also means that you understand being firm with them without anger will help to direct their behavior.
- Physically supporting a child means making sure they live up to their physical responsibilities. These should increase as their age and abilities increase.
- Spiritually supporting you child begins with praying for them and continues by being an example of someone who seeks God on a regular basis who is not ashamed to let others know about it. Sharing your faith with them and listening to their spiritual experiences helps everyone grow stronger in the faith.
These principles can be used for all our relationships.
- Getting everything you want spoils you, so share but don’t feed greed.
- Bad behavior should never be rewarded. The ends do not justify the means. So show love and compassion but be firm when manipulation with a temper begins.
- Responsibility is a learned behavior. Help others but don’t take on all their responsibilities and enable them to be lazy and irresponsible.
- People learn what they see. If they are surrounded by faith they will learn faith. If they are surrounded by sin they will learn sin. So be yourself and share your faith freely with your actions and attitudes. Remember those around you will learn from what you do.
Support your friends and family this week and I will be back next week with more.