Children are awesome blessings from God. Remember that, when you drop all the groceries on the floor and break the eggs, the dog tries to carry off your meat for his own special meal, your baby is crying, your toddler eats the cookies off the floor and your husband is not home to help. Sound ridiculous? Not really, for an average Mommy day.
Remember children are a blessing on the day your toddler gets kicked out of preschool for biting, your second grader’s insults get him suspended and your teenager skips school to get a tattoo without your permission. It is at times like these that a good Mommy can be tempted to give up on her children. Feeling overwhelmed by circumstances and inadequate, a mother can reach the point of thinking there is no hope for her children.
How do you keep hope alive when the circumstances are beating you up? Don’t talk if you can’t say anything good. Tell yourself to stay calm while you clean up the messes, undo as much damage as humanly possible, and then take a time-out. During your time-out pull out these scriptures to help re-focus your mind and heart, before you say something you will regret.
Psalm 127:3 Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him.
Proverbs 22:6 Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.
James 1:12 Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.
Psalm 42:11 Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.
Psalm 30:5 For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime; weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.
Ephesians 4:2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
Ephesians 4:31-32 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Isaiah 40:31 but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
Psalm 32:8 I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.
Deuteronomy 6:6-7These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. (All these scriptures are from the NIV.)
With God’s direction, hope and help fresh in your mind you can calmly deal with the situations of the day. Never give up on your child. Children make all kind of mistakes and missteps but they can always be corrected and trained to move forward. As long as they breathe there is hope for a child to turn their life around. God makes children and he does not make junk. Every child is worth encouraging and helping. No matter how bad it may look, remember this is God’s child and He never gives up so you shouldn’t either.
You might consider memorizing some key scriptures, like the ones listed above. Think of them as tools you need to make it through a bad situation. When the Word of God is in your memory the Holy Spirit can bring it back in an instant, just when you need it. The hope you get from the scriptures will transfer down to you children.
Enjoy your week and I will be back next week discussing constructive correction of a child.