Inspiration, Christianity and My Life, Children

Parenting the Dash (part 1)

Unfortunately our society marks the moment that a child leaves the womb as the moment that their life starts. We memorialize this in our headstones. In actuality the date of conception marks the first moment of life. It is however, easier to track the date of birth as the beginning of a life, because before that a child is hidden in a safe place out of reach from harm–or so one would think.

When you go to a cemetery and look at someone’s headstone you see their name, birth date and death date. Most headstones have a brief line about their life. In between the birth date and death date there is a dash. The dash represents everything that happened from birth to death. How can all that fit in a dash?

I could write for hours and volumes on all that has happened in my life and I am sure you could too. But when you die, if you get a headstone most of your life will be memorialized by that dash. The dates of your birth and death really do not matter in the eternal scheme of things, but what you did with your time on this earth is what you will be known by.

When we speak eternally the dash is the most important part, because what you learn and how you act are what help you reach your eternal reward. As a parent that dash in our child’s life is very important. We know that what happens in that dash reflects on our input into our child. So we want to do the best for them. We want to give them what they need and want.

What about those children who don’t have a dash? There are many reasons for miscarriages and they are all tragic. The safety of the womb is not always enough for a child with certain physical defects. For those children, there is no dash. The day they come out of the womb is a sad day, a day of pain for their parents.

Then there are those children who are vibrant and alive with all the hope of a future and suddenly it is taken from them. They are ripped out of their safe environment in pieces and thrown into the trash–or worse. These children get no dash. Their life is ripped away from them in what can be a painful event. Then their mom suffers from the realization that what was inside of her was not just tissue, but a life. The horror of one event removes one dash altogether and forever changes the dash of another.

Could we give these children a chance at a dash? I believe if we can open minds and hearts to the reality of abortion we can make a difference. There is a group of women who are bringing attention to abortion in this country who have all been affected by it in one way or another. The movement is “Back to life” and their website is  I have posted a link to their Facebook page on the side bar, would you take time to visit their website and Facebook page in support of their efforts.

Always remember:

Psalm 139:14
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. (NIV)

It is time to take a stand. That is all for this week. Next week I will go into more detail about how to parent the dash. Enjoy your week.


Comments on: "Parenting the Dash (part 1)" (2)

  1. Very well said!


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